Today Mark and I went wedding band shopping. As I mentioned in my
previous post about wanting a green wedding, we were looking for
antique (AKA recycled and green) rings. Platinum is a metal that is quite dirty in
an environmental sense, so we didn't want new ones.
Antique platinum is not easy to find, and we went from place to
place asking before being turned away. However, in Gray's
Antique Market in Bond
St, there were lots of good possibilities. Some
very old, and others from fifty to seventy years ago. Mark got my
engagement ring from there. It's circa 1930's and it's absolutely, absolutely
beautiful.
The jewellery in this market is amazing. Using the
word market totally
undersells what this place is - from cameo brooches (like the one you wish your
granny had) to tiaras - dusty but gorgeous watches, eye popping aquamarine
earrings - everything absolutely gorgeous. Diamonds everywhere.
We also went to the Burlington arcade and found this very
upmarket jewellery store that looked like it might have antiques. We were
ushered in and asked to sit down. As like in all these places, they sneak a
look at my engagement ring to see what we can afford. We asked the question
"do you have any antique platinum bands?"
"Antique" he asked. "Do you mean, second-hand?"
We smiled at him. "Yes"
"First of all - there is no such thing as
second-hand rings, and secondly, nobody would want that anyway"
"I would"
I said.
He looked at me. "Why would you want a second-hand ring that
came from a dead person's finger, or a divorce?"
"Or someone who had a happy marriage" I
countered. "I think it's romantic".
"I've supplied rings to hundreds of couples, I advertise in
every bridal magazine. Nobody wants a second-hand ring" he said.
So we left, thinking "what a wanker"
I don't want to be buried with my wedding and engagement rings. If
our marriage is a long and happy one or lasts six months, that power isn't
stored in a piece of metal. I would want someone else to enjoy it and continue
to be a symbol of love for someone else.
Secondly - why is new better? When we are running out of raw resources, or
killing the planet to find the ones that we do still have (for the time being),
buying antique is not just incredibly romantic, but it's better for the
environment too. Believe me, when they are all shined up, you will never tell
the difference, NEVER. A wedding ring is only a symbol of love. Love isn't actually embodied in the physical thing. What is embodied is potentially some heavy forest degradation, child and
slave labour, supporting corrupt governments and poisonous environmental waste.
To give you an idea, a single gold ring can produce over 20 tonnes of mine waste. (source)
AH - rant over! What a self righteous little Virgo I can be
sometimes!! If you are getting married soon, or just buying jewellery for
someone you love - go antique, and make up a lovely story about the owner(s) of
it, cherish for the time it's yours and then let it go for someone else.
Other posts you might like
My kinda sorta, not really Green Wedding
We are Circle, by Corrina Gordon-Barnes
Buying a wedding dress you can wear again, by Katie at Ethical Weddings
Mining and Its Effects on the Environment
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